Where do you start? It was just a few weeks ago when I got his last phone call (12/15/09). I cannot believe that my kid’s dad is now dead. I am only glad that Sean our 18 year old was able to be with him when he died. It was very sudden. We remained the best of friends for years after we separated on 01/01/2000 and later divorced 09/27/2002.
We were talking more frequently than ever as he was having marital issues with his wife; they were married just over a year when he passed. What made matters worse was that he promised a job for Sean half way across the country – but it never came through. It was one thing we always disagree on. I wanted the kids to work for what they got and he wanted to hand them things.
Chris Kelly Deckard - born 12/14/1967 passing away on 12/19/2009. But there is so much unknown about his death and we have hit road block after road block.
Chris was diagnosed with cancer in early November 2009; he was just on his third week of treatments when he became ill in the very early hours of 12/18/2009. He was taken by ambulance to The French Hospital in San Luis Obispo CA. Sean had been going to all of the doctor’s appointments with his daddy excluding one. Testing, Treatment, Everything. Chris’ wife was busy elsewhere. On Chris’ last day Sean was alone with his dad most of the day Cyndi was picking up her adopted sister from the airport. Chris was in the ICU a clean room with no access to phone or internet. We could not call or contact him in any way other than through Sean our son.
Chris & Sean were told early morning on the 19th that he should be released on Sunday or Monday (the next day or day after). Things were improving. Things took a turn for the worse after the arrival of Cyndi. Sean was with his dad roughly the 30 minutes before he died. Chris was only allowed one visitor at a time, Sean left so Cyndi could take her turn. Chris died within the next 10 minutes. We were not suspicious at the time. We were stunned and devastated.
To hear Sean’s phone call was the most heartbreaking thing ever. All he could say when he called was Mom the rest was just sobbing while his heart broke.
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